I'm starting to finalize in my mind that moving out of my home is the best option, but how to get started?

I’m starting to finalize in my mind that moving out of my home is the best option, but how to get started?
First of all, let me give some small details and say that I am a 19 year old University drama student. Drama is one of my biggest passions in life and I love it. That’s part of the reason why I want to leave because unfortunately, I’ve grown up in an abusive home with lots of fighting and violence. I’m telling you, I would have nightmares about my father coming to kill me. Okay, maybe he never would do that, but still, a little kid can only feel so safe. I remember one dream we had where I actually did not have a dad and my mom brought a statue home that looked just like him. Well, I was somewhat fascinated by it. Then, he actually came to life and wanted to put my on his shoulders, just like most dads. Well, once he did, he started walking towards the ceiling fan and it was going real fast. I was terrified, I tried to get out, but I was trapped. As soon as I hit it, I woke up.

My past experience with my family is an extremely long story, one that I do not feel like telling. So I will just say that I want to leave and start my life over because I don’t feel as if I had the chance to live. Currently I’m going to school with student loans, and now that I mentioned the word loan, I’m going to get at least 20 idiots on here advertising fake loan companies. Happens all the time. Anyways, I have ,944 in my account and 60 bucks on hand that I withdrew because I needed to buy a pair of headphones (music is the only thing that keeps me sane, and I need to listen to it quietly). I’ll probably just deposit it all later. I also have change that I roll, and sometimes it’s better the way because it’s harder to spend money if I have change. I’m trying to be a lot smarter with me money because the first year I probably spent a little more than I should have on junk food, but thankfully I am a fairly responsible person. I have a bike, so I don’t need a car. If I have to, I take the bus or walk everywhere. I don’t need fancy or junk food; I can survive on basics. Books I can always checkout from the library.

I should also bring up that I suffer from social anxiety due to living in this environment. I want to find a job, but the anxiety is heavily preventing me from doing so. I’m thinking that maybe if I leave home first, then I can find a job, but I don’t know how smart this is. Once I stop going to school, I’ll have to pay back lots of money, and I don’t want to rack up dept just like that. Because of the anxiety, living with a roommate would also be a huge problem, and I don’t really have any friends or family I can stay with. Again, I’m thinking that once I start living on my own, the anxiety will get better. After all, I actually had the chance to act out in the big city in my province (living in Canada here) and I felt loads better and somewhat less anxious. Once I got home, I felt that way for days, then returned to normal. I’ve already taken the steps to get over my anxiety, but something is still holding me back. Perhaps I could start off living alone, then maybe I might actually make more friends and will be able to have a roommate. Also, my sister moved across the country to live on her own, but had to come home because she couldn’t afford it, and I know her as a very temperamental person. When she came home, she seemed like she was a lot happier, but of course, she reverted back to her usual self.

So I’m sure you want me to stop writing now. The point is that I’m now starting to think that leaving is my best option and not as impossible as I once thought. I just need some tips and advice from people. I have no problem with living cheap and making sacrifices.
Actually, I don’t have a good realtionship with anybody in my family. It’s almost as if I don’t have family at all. So that wouldn’t work.


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I'm starting to finalize in my mind that moving out of my home is the best option, but how to get started?

First of all, let me give some small details and say that I am a 19 year old University drama student. Drama is one of my biggest passions in life and I love it. That’s part of the reason why I want to leave because unfortunately, I’ve grown up in an abusive home with lots of fighting and violence. I’m telling you, I would have nightmares about my father coming to kill me. Okay, maybe he never would do that, but still, a little kid can only feel so safe. I remember one dream we had where I actually did not have a dad and my mom brought a statue home that looked just like him. Well, I was somewhat fascinated by it. Then, he actually came to life and wanted to put my on his shoulders, just like most dads. Well, once he did, he started walking towards the ceiling fan and it was going real fast. I was terrified, I tried to get out, but I was trapped. As soon as I hit it, I woke up.

My past experience with my family is an extremely long story, one that I do not feel like telling. So I will just say that I want to leave and start my life over because I don’t feel as if I had the chance to live. Currently I’m going to school with student loans, and now that I mentioned the word loan, I’m going to get at least 20 idiots on here advertising fake loan companies. Happens all the time. Anyways, I have ,944 in my account and 60 bucks on hand that I withdrew because I needed to buy a pair of headphones (music is the only thing that keeps me sane, and I need to listen to it quietly). I’ll probably just deposit it all later. I also have change that I roll, and sometimes it’s better the way because it’s harder to spend money if I have change. I’m trying to be a lot smarter with me money because the first year I probably spent a little more than I should have on junk food, but thankfully I am a fairly responsible person. I have a bike, so I don’t need a car. If I have to, I take the bus or walk everywhere. I don’t need fancy or junk food; I can survive on basics. Books I can always checkout from the library.

I should also bring up that I suffer from social anxiety due to living in this environment. I want to find a job, but the anxiety is heavily preventing me from doing so. I’m thinking that maybe if I leave home first, then I can find a job, but I don’t know how smart this is. Once I stop going to school, I’ll have to pay back lots of money, and I don’t want to rack up dept just like that. Because of the anxiety, living with a roommate would also be a huge problem, and I don’t really have any friends or family I can stay with. Again, I’m thinking that once I start living on my own, the anxiety will get better. After all, I actually had the chance to act out in the big city in my province (living in Canada here) and I felt loads better and somewhat less anxious. Once I got home, I felt that way for days, then returned to normal. I’ve already taken the steps to get over my anxiety, but something is still holding me back. Perhaps I could start off living alone, then maybe I might actually make more friends and will be able to have a roommate. Also, my sister moved across the country to live on her own, but had to come home because she couldn’t afford it, and I know her as a very temperamental person. When she came home, she seemed like she was a lot happier, but of course, she reverted back to her usual self.

So I’m sure you want me to stop writing now. The point is that I’m now starting to think that leaving is my best option and not as impossible as I once thought. I just need some tips and advice from people. I have no problem with living cheap and making sacrifices.


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I'm starting to finalize in my mind that moving out of my home is the best option, but how to get started?

First of all, let me give some small details and say that I am a 19 year old University drama student. Drama is one of my biggest passions in life and I love it. That’s part of the reason why I want to leave because unfortunately, I’ve grown up in an abusive home with lots of fighting and violence. I’m telling you, I would have nightmares about my father coming to kill me. Okay, maybe he never would do that, but still, a little kid can only feel so safe. I remember one dream we had where I actually did not have a dad and my mom brought a statue home that looked just like him. Well, I was somewhat fascinated by it. Then, he actually came to life and wanted to put my on his shoulders, just like most dads. Well, once he did, he started walking towards the ceiling fan and it was going real fast. I was terrified, I tried to get out, but I was trapped. As soon as I hit it, I woke up.

My past experience with my family is an extremely long story, one that I do not feel like telling. So I will just say that I want to leave and start my life over because I don’t feel as if I had the chance to live. Currently I’m going to school with student loans, and now that I mentioned the word loan, I’m going to get at least 20 idiots on here advertising fake loan companies. Happens all the time. Anyways, I have ,944 in my account and 60 bucks on hand that I withdrew because I needed to buy a pair of headphones (music is the only thing that keeps me sane, and I need to listen to it quietly). I’ll probably just deposit it all later. I also have change that I roll, and sometimes it’s better the way because it’s harder to spend money if I have change. I’m trying to be a lot smarter with me money because the first year I probably spent a little more than I should have on junk food, but thankfully I am a fairly responsible person. I have a bike, so I don’t need a car. If I have to, I take the bus or walk everywhere. I don’t need fancy or junk food; I can survive on basics. Books I can always checkout from the library.

I should also bring up that I suffer from social anxiety due to living in this environment. I want to find a job, but the anxiety is heavily preventing me from doing so. I’m thinking that maybe if I leave home first, then I can find a job, but I don’t know how smart this is. Once I stop going to school, I’ll have to pay back lots of money, and I don’t want to rack up dept just like that. Because of the anxiety, living with a roommate would also be a huge problem, and I don’t really have any friends or family I can stay with. Again, I’m thinking that once I start living on my own, the anxiety will get better. After all, I actually had the chance to act out in the big city in my province (living in Canada here) and I felt loads better and somewhat less anxious. Once I got home, I felt that way for days, then returned to normal. I’ve already taken the steps to get over my anxiety, but something is still holding me back. Perhaps I could start off living alone, then maybe I might actually make more friends and will be able to have a roommate. Also, my sister moved across the country to live on her own, but had to come home because she couldn’t afford it, and I know her as a very temperamental person. When she came home, she seemed like she was a lot happier, but of course, she reverted back to her usual self.

So I’m sure you want me to stop writing now. The point is that I’m now starting to think that leaving is my best option and not as impossible as I once thought. I just need some tips and advice from people. I have no problem with living cheap and making sacrifices.
Abuse is part of it. The thing is that my parents aren’t quite as messed up as they were before, however, being around them continues to cause me considerable anxiety, and after having my trust broken in them several times, I’m starting to get fed up. So I basically want to leave, start a new chapter in life, and work on my anxiety away form them because no matter what, I can’t totally beat my problems while I’m living here.
Ohh, and I don’t have friends or family I can live with. I want to try living alone if that is possible.
I’ve tried meds before, but they made things worse. I might be open to try them again, but not while I’m living at home just because I feel they would be innefective. I understand that it’s difficult to live on your own. Believe me. But unfortunately, as long as I’m suffering from this horrible anxiety, I doubt I could handle a roommate for at least a while.


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Glue coins on the floor where people can see them and see how many people try to pick them up.

When there is a sign that says, "Caution: Wet Floor", move it somewhere else or to a carpeted area.

Switch the price tags.

Put random things in peoples’ carts.

Go to the service desk and ask to put a bag of M&Ms on lay away.

Look straight into the security camera, use it as a mirror.

Dart around the store suspiciously, loudly humming the " Mission Impossible" theme.

Take the shoes off that you are wearing, then try to buy them. If a cashier tries to tell you that you didn’t get them there, refuse and say you did.

Yell, "We got a code red in housewares!" and see what happens.

Hide in a clothing rack and when people browse through, say, "Pick me! Pick me!

Go into a fitting room and wait a while. Then yell very loudly, "There’s no toilet paper in here!

Ride around on a 3-year old’s bike screaming, "The British are coming! The British are coming!

Set the alarms in the clock aisle to go off continuously every 5 minutes.

Get a toy water gun and then duck tape all of the Elmo dolls together and say, "Don’t move or the Elmos get it!

Get chopsticks and stick them in your nose and run around yelling, "I’m a walrus! Hear me roar!

Pretend to be a manakin and dress up in store clothes. Strike a pose. If someone looks at you, make faces.

Stare at the ceiling and see how many people look to see what you’re staring at..

Take a Darth Vador doll and when a clerk isn’t looking, pick up the intercom phone and press the button to make teh Darth Vador doll talk on the store speaker system.

Walk behind a person who works at Wal-Mart and say, "Can I help you?

Grab one of the sample perfume bottles and squirt random passing people.

Get whipped cream and put it in your mouth and run around screaming, "I have rabies!

Talk on the loud speaker and say, "Attention K-Mart shoppers!

Walk up to a random person and say, "Hey! I remember you!" and see if they play along to avoid emberrasment.

Put barbies in a tough-looking guy’s cart.

Take a bunch of bouncy balls and bounce them at people.

Test fishing gear by casting into other aisles and see what you can catch.

Get a toy gun and run around the store playing army.

Pat a person on the back and put a "Kick Me" sign on them.

Throw a tennis ball and then chase it on all four legs, catching it in your mouth like a dog.

Dress up as Batman and sit in a cart while someone pushes you and yell, "To the Batcave, Robin!

Play bumper cars with the shopping carts.

Dress up as Spiderman and tackle random people and run off yelling,
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Start singing in a horrible voice and when people look at you, say, "I’m the next American Idol!

Get a can of Lysol and follow someone around the store, spraying everything they touch.

Spitball the cameras and random people.

Breakdance in the middle of the store..

"Accidentally" get stuck in one of the frozen food doors. Give people strange looks and see if anyone helps you out.

Play "Marco Polo"

Randomly throw things into neighboring aisles.

Run up to a complete stranger and say, "You’re it!

Take a "mysterious package" to someone’s cart and say kinda loud, "Here’s the next clue, meet me at Sector 57 at oh- seven hundred hours tomarrow.
Bring no one. "

Get 20 people together and play "Hide and Go Seek

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